This is My Opinion + Optimism is an Attitude and a Choice + Shrinking Clothes
Good Morning from Prince Edward Island,
Thank you for allowing me into your space and time day.
Let's have a cuppa together.
Last week, I had the opportunity to have breakfast with five men with whom I have acquaintance and an appreciation.
I enjoyed the time, and I look forward to the next get-together.
After spending the past year more or less shut-in and being an extrovert, being with others in conversation was refreshing.
Heading to work after the breakfast social, I started thinking about one word.
And it is the thread I pulled on today. Opinion.
Looking up synonyms, I found the most relevant as determined by Google’s algorithm.
When I review and think about each word, it reminds me of how society has in ‘my opinion’ moved from ‘we to me.’
It would be wonderful to see discussions on how we can make things better. And end with decisions made for the common good. Versus decisions to please the squeakiest wheel collective.
Pulling on this thread today has me entering a rabbit hole. And a topic that most likely was someone’s doctoral thesis.
Keeping this in mind, I have to give the subject, ‘a nice to meet you’ synopsis today.
How do opinions get formed?
Where do they come from?
Why do we form them?
We have public opinion, legal opinion, judicial opinion, group opinion, scientific opinion and some attempt to make decisions based on fact.
When I searched for the meaning of opinion, I found this on Psychology Today.
Opinions = Attitudes
In the psychological literature, “opinions” are referred to as “attitudes.” At the most fundamental level, people’s attitudes are described as being either positive or negative.
Besides an attitude’s positivity or negativity, researchers have also identified many other features that matter. For example, attitudes could be broad or more specific. Or attitudes could be based on morality.
There are a host of attitude features that have proven incredibly important in the research on attitudes. But there’s one especially useful distinction when it comes to people’s attitudes:
Whether they’re strong or weak.
The Three Tenants of Strong Attitudes
Although every attitude a person has can influence them—from their attitudes toward shampoo to their attitudes toward the military—researchers are particularly interested in strong attitudes.
Strong (vs. weak) attitudes are those that:
- Persist over time
- Resist persuasion
- Guide behaviour.
Strong (vs. weak) attitudes are the durable (persistent and resistant) and impactful (influential) attitudes that people hold.
Thus, researchers are most interested in understanding how people come to have strong attitudes and, importantly, what can be done to change them.
"The frontier is not a place; it is more of a positive and broad-minded attitude coupled with courage and audacity."~ Jeffrey A. Krames
When those with strong opinions need to express them, I think of the expression soapbox.
Blogs can be soapboxes within the context of the internet. And if this is my soapbox, let it be for good.
Sharing our opinion with others says a lot about our values.
At times I need to sit down and question where my opinion originates.
I regret sharing an opinion and learning I hurt someone with it. Or feel bad about myself after my ignorance is displayed.
It is natural to share opinions, and I do so based on what I think to be true. And sometimes, I do this to feel safe or superior in some way. (in my head at this very moment, I hear a giant buzzer hit by the game show host, WRONG)
I love being part of civil discussions where everyone is open to learning and growing.
Suppose peace of mind is the ultimate goal, then discussions can be fun and fun-da-mental to peace.
At the beginning of this year, I shared my word for the year was growth. I want development and peace of mind. With these as the goal, I need to regularly reflect on my opinions/attitudes. In doing so, allows me to learn if they are hindering my mental well-being.
Also, through the lens of is it helping others ask myself, am I?
To grow, I need to be an open listener. To grow as a society, we all need to be better listeners.
I love meeting people and most times enjoy hearing what they think.
I met thousands upon thousands of folks visiting our place. As a result, I have had the pleasure and displeasure of attending to a lot of opinions.
Positive thinking doesn’t solve every problem. But it’s a much better tool than negative thinking. ~ Seth Godin
In letting go of hardened opinions, I don’t need to worry about knowing anything.
If I am curious, have a capacity for wonder and a spirit of gratitude, I can have peace of mind on call anytime, anyplace. Amen.
"Gratitude is the inner gesture & attitude from which thank you springs when it is genuine is gratefulness." ~ Benedictine monk David Steindl-Rast
All the 'what,’ all the 'how' is waiting for us to discover its ‘why.'
We can dive in, grow and pass it on. Be surprised, amused and inspired.
and what you do are in harmony.’ ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Being true to myself and true to my word is one of the secrets to living a good life.
Wishing a wonderful weekend on you and yours. And to all the mothers, I say thank you for the gift of life.
With love from Prince Edward Island.
Bruce & Millie
ps. Your Morning Smile
“Darling, I think the new dryer is shrinking my clothes.”
“No, sweetie, that was the fridge.”