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This is My Opinion + Optimism is an Attitude and a Choice + Shrinking Clothes

This is My Opinion + Optimism is an Attitude and a Choice + Shrinking Clothes

Good Morning from Prince Edward Island, 

Thank you for allowing me into your space and time day. 

Let's have a cuppa together. 

Last week, I had the opportunity to have breakfast with five men with whom I have acquaintance and an appreciation.

I enjoyed the time, and I look forward to the next get-together.

After spending the past year more or less shut-in and being an extrovert, being with others in conversation was refreshing.

Heading to work after the breakfast social, I started thinking about one word.

And it is the thread I pulled on today. Opinion

Looking up synonyms, I found the most relevant as determined by Google’s algorithm.

Post of View

When I review and think about each word, it reminds me of how society has in ‘my opinion’ moved from ‘we to me.’

It would be wonderful to see discussions on how we can make things better. And end with decisions made for the common good. Versus decisions to please the squeakiest wheel collective. 

Pulling on this thread today has me entering a rabbit hole. And a topic that most likely was someone’s doctoral thesis.

Keeping this in mind, I have to give the subject, ‘a nice to meet you’ synopsis today.

How do opinions get formed?

Where do they come from? 

Why do we form them?

We have public opinion, legal opinion, judicial opinion, group opinion, scientific opinion and some attempt to make decisions based on fact. 

When I searched for the meaning of opinion, I found this on Psychology Today.

Opinions = Attitudes

In the psychological literature, “opinions” are referred to as “attitudes.” At the most fundamental level, people’s attitudes are described as being either positive or negative. 

Besides an attitude’s positivity or negativity, researchers have also identified many other features that matter. For example, attitudes could be broad or more specific.  Or attitudes could be based on morality.

There are a host of attitude features that have proven incredibly important in the research on attitudes. But there’s one especially useful distinction when it comes to people’s attitudes:

Whether they’re strong or weak.

The Three Tenants of Strong Attitudes

Although every attitude a person has can influence them—from their attitudes toward shampoo to their attitudes toward the military—researchers are particularly interested in strong attitudes.

Strong (vs. weak) attitudes are those that:

  • Persist over time
  • Resist persuasion
  • Guide behaviour.

Strong (vs. weak) attitudes are the durable (persistent and resistant) and impactful (influential) attitudes that people hold.

Thus, researchers are most interested in understanding how people come to have strong attitudes and, importantly, what can be done to change them.

"The frontier is not a place; it is more of a positive and broad-minded attitude coupled with courage and audacity."~ Jeffrey A. Krames

When those with strong opinions need to express them, I think of the expression soapbox.

Blogs can be soapboxes within the context of the internet.  And if this is my soapbox, let it be for good.

Sharing our opinion with others says a lot about our values.

At times I need to sit down and question where my opinion originates.

I regret sharing an opinion and learning I hurt someone with it. Or feel bad about myself after my ignorance is displayed.

It is natural to share opinions, and I do so based on what I think to be true. And sometimes, I do this to feel safe or superior in some way. (in my head at this very moment, I hear a giant buzzer hit by the game show host, WRONG)

I love being part of civil discussions where everyone is open to learning and growing.

Suppose peace of mind is the ultimate goal, then discussions can be fun and fun-da-mental to peace.

When you are firmly committed to your inner journey,
where you go outwardly becomes irrelevant.
The real journey is the journey to peace within your own heart.
The only question that can be asked on the inward journey is,
“am I at peace?”
If you are not at peace, then you have identified with something
outside of yourself.
Peace is always there. It seems to disappear
only because you turn your attention elsewhere. - Paul Ferrini

At the beginning of this year, I shared my word for the year was growth. I want development and peace of mind. With these as the goal, I need to regularly reflect on my opinions/attitudes. In doing so, allows me to learn if they are hindering my mental well-being. 

Also, through the lens of is it helping others ask myself, am I?

To grow, I need to be an open listener. To grow as a society, we all need to be better listeners.

I love meeting people and most times enjoy hearing what they think.

I met thousands upon thousands of folks visiting our place. As a result, I have had the pleasure and displeasure of attending to a lot of opinions.

Optimism is an attitude and a choice. It involves context and focus. We’re not deluding ourselves with the reassurance that everything is going to be okay (because that’s not productive). Instead, we’re committed to finding things we can contribute to, work on and improve.
We’re devoted to seeking out useful lessons and to discovering
where the benefit of the doubt might be helpful.

Positive thinking doesn’t solve every problem. But it’s a much better tool than negative thinking. ~ Seth Godin

In letting go of hardened opinions, I don’t need to worry about knowing anything.

If I am curious, have a capacity for wonder and a spirit of gratitude, I can have peace of mind on call anytime, anyplace.  Amen.

"Gratitude is the inner gesture & attitude from which thank you springs when it is genuine is gratefulness." ~ Benedictine monk David Steindl-Rast

All the 'what,’ all the 'how' is waiting for us to discover its ‘why.'

We can dive in, grow and pass it on. Be surprised, amused and inspired.

‘Happiness is when what you think, what you say,

and what you do are in harmony.’ ~ Mahatma Gandhi 

 Being true to myself and true to my word is one of the secrets to living a good life.


Wishing a wonderful weekend on you and yours. And to all the mothers, I say thank you for the gift of life. 

With love from Prince Edward Island. 

Bruce & Millie

ps. Your Morning Smile

“Darling, I think the new dryer is shrinking my clothes.”

“No, sweetie, that was the fridge.”

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Bryce schnare - May 8, 2021

Morn’n Bruce
Great Blog today! You hit the nail right on the head. We look forward to seeing you again before long.
Kristen is student of Seth Godin. A few years back she graduated from his Alt MBA course and today on a part time basis teaches the online courses to people all around the globe

Janice Riggs - May 8, 2021

As one who has had Parkinson’s disease for more than twenty years, I have learned a little about the value of optimism. Researchers tell us that an optimistic outlook produces beneficial chemicals in the brain, just as laughter or moments of joy do. Along with exercise and an individually determined balance of medications, this attitude can help in resisting the disease. There may, of course, be undiscovered factors at work as well, but I am convinced that optimism is one reason why after all these years I have few and very mild symptoms of Parkinson’s. When I meet new people, no one ever guesses that I have this disabling illness. I know that the disease will advance. It always does. But I have been blessed with over twenty years of holding it at bay, for which gift I am highly grateful.

Tati - May 8, 2021

Your boots are part of my Saturdays mornings! Directly after breakfast, before I cleanup I sit down to read, explore, listen and grow. Thank you so much for your dedication to writing them and sharing your opinions! Your reference to our ability to choose is in line with two books I have just read and reread back to back. “The Choice” and “The Gift” both by Dr. Edith Eva Ever. Her life from Auschwitz prisoner to a psychologist is extraordinary. The gifts she shares with the reader about choice hold wisdom.
We are hopeful we can return to my husband’s island home to breath the island air, see friends, make music on the deck, enjoy your lovely resteraunt and stock up on all our favourite teas and jams. Thank you for all.

Susan B - May 8, 2021

Great analysis of opinion and attitude.
Thank you for these videos that take us out of our locale and let us see these talented musicians all over the world !!
I love Stevie; beautiful song.
Can’t wait to gift my PEI Preserves Mother Day collections.
Have a wonderful Spring week !!
Susan B

Debbie Wynne - May 8, 2021

Loved this mornings read….very thought provoking. In a letter to my parents once I thanked my Mom for instilling in me the eyes and spirit of a child and my Dad for giving me the curiosity gene. It made the world a wondrous place to grow up in. No matter how strong or deeply seated my opinions may be, I was always taught to listen and weigh the opinion of others. According to my parents that was the true meaning of respect. Thanks for reminding me of this Bruce…..take good care Debbie

Pierre Bedard - May 8, 2021

Society has moved from ‘we’ to ‘me’: how true, and how dangerous for our common good. Imagine if bees or ants did the same!

Bev Shapiro - May 8, 2021

Hi Bruce, your blog resonated with me today, in light of the horror of the last four years of politics in America.

Lots of people have opinions about Trump and vaccines, not based on truth or fact. It has been very painful for those of us who read, believe in science and are questioners.

Julie MacKenzie - May 8, 2021

Love the “Higher Ground” video…Great articles on opinion & attitudes. Thanks for sharing your blog Bruce! I look forward to it every weekend. Happy Mother’s Day to all! Have a great weekend! :)

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